Here is a super simple ritual, which is amazingly powerful at full moon
You may want to physically cleanse yourself beforehand, however you prefer to do that. A simple bath or shower works fine. A special bath or shower makes it more special.
Gather the things you need:
candle (white is best, a tea light in a jar works well, especially if you’re outside as it doesn’t blow out)
pen (fountain with dragon’s blood ink or biro/ pencil)
black thread (regular cotton is fine)
any of the optional extras you are using (see optional extras below).
Choose where you will do this, indoor or outdoor. I prefer to do this outside but it works well indoors too. Just make sure you’ve got a nearby window that you can open as it will get smoky, and perhaps put something down to catch any debris. Outside, you will need to be able to see well enough to write on some paper (without it blowing away) and without freaking out your housemates or neighbours.
Centring/ Creating your space
Once you have everything you need and you are happy in your chosen place spend a few moments tuning in to your breath. Let go of anything that may be bothering you so that you can focus on your ritual. It can be helpful to say “I am Jessica, I am present” (obviously inserting your own name instead of Jessica, or that would be weird).
Light your candle. Take a moment to look into the flame as it flickers.
If you work with spirits or deities then now would be the time to invite them in. If you don’t then don’t. Similarly with the elements/ directions.
Take your paper and free write onto it anything that is troubling you. Pour out your heart. You don’t need to worry about spelling, grammar, legibility even. Just put it down. The paper can hold it all. If you need more sheets use more.
Roll up the paper you have written on like a very tight scroll. If you are using herbs pop them in the centre of your scroll before you roll it. Use the black thread to wind it around and keep it tight.
Get under the light of the moon (or darkness, if the moon isn’t visible – but better if you can time your ritual when the moon is out). Easy if you’re outside, but poking a face, or arm out of your window also works.
Take three more deep breaths and consciously feel each time you are breathing out that you are letting go of these things which no longer serve you.
Set the paper alight. Watch it burn (it can sometimes take a little while to get going so take a few matches or a lighter). I like to gently blow to keep the smoke going. If you blow into the lit end the smoke pushes out through the other too which always pleases me for some odd reason. Try it.
While it burns you may like to visualise something which helps with releasing, like darkness flowing out of you and back into the earth, or millions of little insects flying away. You may like to say some words, wither pre-prepared or ad lib. Move, dance, sing, play music, drum, chant. Whatever feels good.
If your bundle stops burning just light it again. Try to burn it until it is all gone. (Any bits and pieces that are left can be put outside on bare soil, or gifted to a house plant).
If you invited any spirits/ deities/ ancestors then say goodbye to them now.
You may want to add some closing words of your own here. Or just a simple thank you to the moon, sun and Earth is perfect.
Ideally let your candle burn all the way down while you settle into what has been done. If that’s not practical snuff the candle. Clear any debris.
You can add an extra sensory dimension to this ritual by adding some dry herbs into the rolled paper. Bay leaves work really well. Sage or mugwort would also be good choices.
You could sing or play music
Move or dance
Say some special words, either pre-prepared or ad lib
Wear special clothes and jewellery
Journal about your experience. It can be helpful to keep this going on a daily basis until, at least, the next new moon.
Or you can just do the basics: write (to discover) and burn (to clear).
That doesn’t sound too hard does it? Reading about it won’t have the same affect though (I know, it’s a shame right?). Doing it is where the magic is. And it works, powerfully, even if you think it’s a bit silly, things start moving in new exciting ways.
Try it. Let me know how it goes.